My marriage

Hi Lindsay,  thing about how lucky you are to be young and have plenty of time to work things out.  Somehow, the answer is right in front of us and we don't realize it.  Now that I am older,(old enough to be your grandfather) I begin to realize that real problems are much worse.  Like cancer, heart conditions and that sort of thing.  When my first wife left me for my best friend 30 years ago , I would have told you that I would not be here today, but here I am.  Take a deep breath...look up...and let He who knows all take care of it.  Dan

  We have to look hard to find the good in all problems.  Finding doc that can help you and talking about your problem is like opening book, one about your life. You could ask your last doc to past his info on to the next one a head of time. That way they can read up before you get there. Maybe you might even try taping it and ask him to listen to it and talk about what you feel or he feels might help. There are a lot of good docs and listeners of the prof type here, they are also good at having links to find what you need. I lost my marriage of 23 years to my depression and ms, This site help me hold it together and finish raising my 2 daughters. God bless and hang in there.

callmetroubles aka Susan

from my mom's side, i have had bipolarity (bp) with brain fog and depression in the past. not to mention that one of my ex-gf's cheated on me while i was out working my butt off a decade and a half ago.

in any event, over time i've found basic things like *quality* fish oil (like 2-3 capsules of neptune krill oil you can buy at a place like costco), flaxseed, multivitamin, b-complex, grape seed, revesterol and such helped a heck of a lot. my bipolarity and depression went away, and now i am full of stamina and vitality, think clearly and have control of my life.

at the core a lot of mental issues like bp and depression are physiological phenomenon that can be arrested and addressed if one thinks critically and tries to attack it at the root by regular supplementation, exercise, and eating right. at least for me.

knowledge is power. be strong and best wishes.

I've hated myself too and also felt my marriage of 30 some odd years is falling apart.  My sister talked me into telling my doctor (a regular MD) that I feel sad all the time.  he perscribed prozak which I've been on for 2 years.  It has helped me tremendous!  I also do more things that I like to do.  i am also trying to cut down on drinking.  It's very hard to force yourself to do these things.  I would start with one positive thing when your husband is away and then go on from there.

good luck!

Hi Lindsey,

It's great to see you reaching out to folks here. There are many people here in the same position as you and by sharing our experiences with one another, together we can help each other find the way.

I know it feels as though you are losing your marriage but have you tried to speak to your husband about how you are feeling? Are you able to talk with him personally that way? I know it's tough some times, but he should know how you are feeling and know that you are trying to work through the difficulties.

Here are some links for information that you might find useful. This information is great for preparing you for your doctor's appointments. It will help you identify the questions you need to ask, because no one knows you better than you! You are a worthy individual and you should have the care you need to feel better. While online sites are great resources for getting the information you need, they can not take the place of your doctor's solid medical advice and care.

There is a great overview of what it means to be diagnosed with depression here. There is a very informative section here for when you have just been diagnosed, including myths debunked, and a section that gives you specific questions to ask your doctor. You can read about the symptoms of depression here, medications commonly prescribed here, and current treatments that are being used here. Most importantly is the support aspect of your depression. There are support groups available and you can find out about some of them here in the support section. Finally, there are many people here at Health Central who are walking the same walk you are taking now. Some are further up the road than you, some have just started the journey. We can all learn from each other, so the best resource here are the expert patients. You can check out some of the forums here, or you can create your own caregiving site. This is a great way to let those folks you care about know how you are doing and how they can help.

I hope this helps somewhat. Please stay in touch and let us know how you are doing!

Vicki M

Lindsay, I would like you to know 2 things.  (1) You are NOT ALONE. That might be obvious as you look around this site, but it needs repeated LOUDLY and often. (2) It is NOT YOUR FAULT. An illness is not one's fault.

The great news is that you are here, on this site, and that means you are engaged in the fight for wellness. Never give up, you are worth the fight.

One thing I've learned is that Depression is way beyond the scope of many if not most family doctors. I found that the only person that truelly understood and helped me, was a Psyciatrist. A medical doctor who understands illness in the organ we call the brain. Sometimes, that illness might take a form that requires medication to return the balance. When you find the right treatment, it will be like stepping back into the light. I am serious when I say that life is a whole lot more fun, standing in the light.

Another thing a Psyciatrist can do, is provide you with the information that you can share with others, so they understand what you are going through. When my wife saw the list I brought home, of Symptoms of Depression, she said, "where is the box to check  all of the above?" She began to understand.

Keep after it, Lindsay. You are a wonderful person, and you deserve to be standing in the light again.